WhoDeyMeeting people safely
Meeting new people is mostly fine and occasionally risky. Good habits do most of the work. This page has the habits, then the tools WhoDey gives you. It is general safety advice, not a guarantee.
How can I meet people from an app safely in Lagos?
Meet in a public place, tell a friend who and where, arrange your own transport, keep personal details private until you trust them, and never send money. Leave if anything feels off. A first meeting should be easy to end.
The core habits
- Talk first, then meet. A few days of chat, maybe a short call, shows how someone communicates.
- Public and busy. A café, restaurant or mall in daylight or early evening.
- Tell someone. Name, where, when and when you will message them again.
- Your own way home. Do not depend on the other person for a lift or a bill.
- Keep details back. No home address, workplace details or financial information early on.
- Watch your drink and your limits. Stay clear-headed at a first meeting.
The Lagos-specific version, with transport and timing, is in the first-meeting safety guide.
Warning signs
- Asks for money, airtime, gift cards or “help” before you have met, for any reason.
- Will not video call, or the photos look too perfect or inconsistent.
- Pushes to move quickly to another app or a private place.
- Gets angry when you suggest a public meeting.
- Stories that change, or a crisis that needs your money fast.
If you see these, stop replying and report the profile.
What safety tools does WhoDey have?
| Tool | What it does |
|---|---|
| 18+ only | A birthday is asked at signup and cannot later be changed to a younger age. |
| Verification | Phone, email and selfie checks add a verification badge so you can see who has done them. |
| Rounded distance | Others see an area name and a rounded distance, never exact coordinates. You can choose your area by hand. |
| Hidden small areas | An area with fewer than 3 people is not listed, so nobody can be singled out. |
| Incognito | Only people you have liked can see you. |
| Block and report | On any profile or chat, any time. |
| Photos in chat | Photos sent in chats clear after 24 hours. |
| Screenshot manners | WhoDey cannot prevent screenshots, but reminds people to keep them private. |
| Private details | Birthdays and relationship status are private unless you choose to share. |
How do I report a problem?
Use Report on a profile or chat in the app, or email safety@whodey.ng with “Safety” in the subject. If you are in immediate danger, contact the emergency services first. In Nigeria that is 112.
Safety advice here is general guidance. You are the best judge of your situation, and it is always okay to leave.